Toxic Parenting

Depression and anxiety have become so common in our society that now people don’t think of it as a big thing. It has triggered so much of mental health problems within us that we lack basic decency to communicate with the other person.
In our society, there are alot of people who have this typical mindset that if a couple is facing some sort of difficulty in their relationship especially when it’s from an emotional perspective then the best way to solve it is have children. Unfortunately, children are considered as a form of security for the married couples. If a person is going through a rough patch in their married lives then the easiest and the most convenient suggestion people give is to have children because our elders are of this notion that they bring stability into a person’s life. They make a person’s life complete because then the couple is bound to stay in that relationship for a lifelong time. They have to bear with each other problems forever because they cannot leave behind as they don’t have any choice rather than to accept each other with such a toxic setup. Then after some years that same child goes through a mental havoc in his life by seeing his parents constantly fighting and mocking one another just because they’re still not reached that point in their relationship which could bring them that affirmation and comfort which they always wanted from one another. In my opinion, no child deserves to go through this horrendous shit because it does effects him in some way or the other later on his life. Children are not an experimental machine on which parents can implement their obnoxious strategies and practices. They should be treated with utmost gentleness and care so that they feel confident about themselves. I’m sure everyone of us as a child has been lectured about parents rights according to an Islamic perspective that we should always be bound to obey them no matter what the circumstances are but no one rarely speaks on the rights of children. I really hope someday our society actually gets to understand that we as humans are very adaptive to the environment around and so the parents should try their best to behave in a more respectable way with each other and leave a good example for their children which will help them shape their mental health in a very progressive way.

Memories 🤍

” Yeh Yaadein kisi Dil o Janam keh chaley janey keh baad ati hain” 😢💔
Isn’t this true? When someone has been very close to you all your life and you could have never imagined your existence without them but suddenly reality hits you in the most unorganized way without any warning. You do not even have the last chance to say them a final goodbye because that’s how life is. When you are told everything seems to stop. That completely sad emotion you’ve never had before. You experience faintness and confusion as if you were falling or dreaming. Although you were informed that something might happen, you could never be fully prepared. You are completely silent and unable to speak. You become overheated and light headed but you cannot cry. To make this feeling go away, you must leave the area, make an escape and do something else. After everything you just don’t want to think it happened. A part of you wants to sob uncontrollably for the person that you’ve lost and another part of you wants strike that rage inside of you. The most important lesson that I’ve learnt from this was to cherish each moment and the memories you shared with your loved ones. After they are gone for good they will never come back. You will remember each and every thing of them, whatever they said, and how you used to spend time with them and you just wish to hug them once; tell them that how much you love them. But we all know that they are not going to come back here again. You’re only left with their memories for the rest of your lifetime that you can lean on to make your mood feel vibrant. Sometimes you will cry missing them and sometimes you will just feel like another day without them with much ease and hope. So in the end just value your family. They’re the most important people in your life who has seen you evolve into a much better person, who has witnessed you fall at the brink of an eye but they never gave up on you❤️
P.S This song is very vivid in my memories and that’s why I wanted to post something related to this song.

Women Empowerment is only when we as women support each other!

In this today’s modern day era when we speak of women rights and their issues why do we always consider men being the villians of every woman’s story? I am not at all saying that the problems which happen with women are not the cause of this patriarchal male dominant society but somewhere we as women and girls are also to be blamed. How many times do we see a woman being the confidence of the other woman? Speaking of domestic households, Mother In Laws are considered to be the most horrific creatures to their daughter in Laws just because they are just too insecure about their sons being more attached with their wives. A typical mentality of our brown culture households! Even in the corporate world we see so many of women trying to belittle and degrade their female collegues in a very brutal way on the basis of their personal differences. Whenever a rape or a sexual harassment issue takes place, the first one to comment anything negative about the victim is a woman. She could be her collegue, teacher, friend, or any relative. If being a woman you cannot understand the depth of the other woman’s pain and suffering then how can you expect a man to do it. A woman alone can change the dynamics of a family then just imagine the power and worth of all the women collectively trying to bring a change in the society. It will become a more progressive and an independent society. It’s often said that for women to compete with each other one really needs to put down the other woman down to show her self worth and dignity. I do not at all support this thing because by celebrating the success of one woman will never take your own glory. It will just bring more positive energy to the world as a whole. We need to stop being insecure and self centered as it will only effect us in the long run. It will only take a little bit of consideration and genuine support for all the women out there who might be going through a terrible phase of their lives because personally I feel there is nothing more amiable for a woman to boost the moral confidence of the other woman. Next time you hear any incident about sexual harassment, rape, molestation, domestic abuse never try to blame the victim. She is already going through alot at that time and the last thing you want to do is to put all the blame on her. Being a woman this is the worst thing to do! If you really cant say anything good about the victim then you better not say anything. I see so many of desi aunties trying to inculpate the victims when they clearly know that who’s at fault in such kind of incidents. A rape happened so let’s just blame the woman because yes she was out at the wrong time wearing the wrong choice of clothes, was with her male friends and the list goes on. The case of domestic abuse came forward and the women of the family will start blaming the victim because yes maybe she is the most convenient of all to put blame on. Or maybe because they are too afraid to speak against the injustice done by the man. In the corporate world, if a woman is divorced then there will be rumors about her personal life and her character will be judged by her female and male collegeues. Even in our educational sector, the female teachers are the most daunting creatures for their female students. There are so many of these kind of examples where women are being subjected to discrimination and mental torture by the hands of the women. Women empowerment can never be achieved unless and until we as women come together as one and try to overcome the social, economical, legal differences.
Let’s conclude it the very famous quote

“The worst thing that we can do as women is not stand up for each other, and this is something we can practice every day, no matter where we are and what we do – women sticking up for other women, choosing to protect and celebrate each other instead of competing or criticising one another.”
Amal Clooney.